Stories make meaning. Therefore, how we tell our story - to ourselves and others - shapes how we feel about who we are, the home we grew up in, and whether we view ourselves as competent in the world now.
Try this example: (adapted from Oolagen)
1. Can you think of a story that your friends or parents tell about you? What kind of image does this story paint of you?
2. If you think about this image . . . what does it suggest about who you are?
3. Do you think this story might have missed or hidden something about you?
4. If people knew you only by this one story . . . what effects would it have on your life? What could it have brought into your life? What could it have taken away?
Dr. Kozlova from Oolagen
"When a person or family comes for help, they may have been struggling with problems for a long time. When we are paying attention only to what's going wrong, our stories become saturated by the problem."